Attachment research shows that infants become acutely distressed when a caregiver's normal responsiveness suddenly stops — but the more important, and more hopeful, finding is that perfect attunement isn't actually what predicts healthy development. What matters more is whether ruptures in connection (a caregiver's momentary unresponsiveness, a missed emotional cue, an ordinary parenting mistake) get repaired afterward, restoring the connection rather than leaving it broken.
This reframes healthy attachment away from an unattainable standard of constant perfect responsiveness and toward something genuinely achievable: not avoiding every rupture, which is impossible, but reliably repairing the ones that inevitably happen. The same principle extends well past infancy into adult relationships of every kind.